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Can I prove to you that NLP exists?

Can I prove to you that NLP exists? To be involved in this sort of discussion it is assumed that in some way you have personal proof that NLP does exit.
The books , video and audio products , as well as courses and seminars , even this thread is proof that something called NLP exists.
Even if you conclude there is a multitude of deluded people sharing a common deception that is called NLP , you still have to accept it’s existence.

Can I prove to you that NLP works?

The short answer is NO.

NLP is a personal experience , so your proof must come from you. You might see someone go through an application of NLP to work on a specific personal issue , and you might observe their experience that proves to them that something has changed (for the better) in their personal subjective experience. And you might take that as “evidence” of NLP’s potential to work for you.
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The choice is yours.

Or perhaps you can see how NLP actually benefits others , but you can’t seem to get it to work on you , or on those people that you assist with NLP applications.
Is this prof that NLP doesn’t work? Or is this proof that some adjustments need to be made in order for the NLP application to do its intended processing job.

What is the intended processing job of an NLP application?
What is the specific personal issue and what is the desired different result(s)?
What does little or no change as a result of running an NLP application mean?
What does temporary beneficial results , that soon revert back to the previous (or worse) situation mean?
How can a proper knowledge of NLP assist in answering these questions?

NLP is a multi faceted body of knowledge, and requires a bit more than just being able to read an NLP application to get the best out of NLP.

There are many factions to the NLP “community” I personally don’t subscribe to any of them , but have formed my opinions and NLP mindset from dispassionately perusing and testing of a wide range of NLP training materials.

In a lot of cases I conclude that there is a lot of rehashing and repackaging of the same product materials going on.

Is this proof that NLP doesn’t work , or proof of marketing gone mad?

What better way to promote your product than to say “new and improved” implying the old is inferior and useless.

The NLP model has never been released to the general public , this is stated by Bandler (and from memory also LaValle) , all of the NLP models were extracted from observing actual people with world recognised skills getting spectacular results.

At this base model level NLP is a system of codifying patterns of neurology into descriptions that enable others to mimic the behaviors of the experts.

And the main NLP models (meta , Milton etc ) were designed for replication of results.

And the sub modality applications of NLP (swish pattern etc.) came from interviews with people that had already successfully overcome personal issues such as phobias and anxieties etc.

So a claim that NLP (applications) don’t work , makes no sense in that all NLP is doing is allowing an NLP user to mimic the behaviors of already successful people in ways that replicate similar results to those that have already been achieved without NLP knowledge.

Now back to the earlier questions
What is the the intended processing job of an NLP application?

To run a persons neurology in new patterns that have been codified from an already successful person. The short answer is to replicate success.

What is the specific personal issue and what is the desired different result(s)?

What is bothering you and what would you rather have = find (or adapt) an existing NLP application to suit your purposes.


What does little or no change as a result of running an NLP application mean?


What does temporary beneficial results , that soon revert back to the previous (or worse) situation mean?

(from an earlier post on the locked thread “Biggest NLP flaw”)

The simple answer is you did it wrong.
Perhaps due to assumption.
Perhaps due to a lack of understanding as to what NLP is.

NLP applications run patterns of neurology in codified sequences and with defined “importance” to specified experience elements

To run an NLP pattern and get the “wrong” result , is a useful feedback.

When you run an NLP application and you get a “wrong” result… This means that the ways in which you activated your neurology didn’t result in the subjectively experienced configuration of neurology that you wanted.

You neurology was activated … because you did something , and you experienced something , it just wasn’t what you wanted.

FAILURE IS VERY USEFUL FEEDBACK for targeting entry points for changing the patterns of your neurology that will get you the result that you want.

Every aspect and detail of your subjective experiences are conveyed to you via your neurology , so failure experiences are a result of the patterns of neurology of a “that didn’t work” experience.

However your neurology was involved , and therefore there will be a multitude of “entry points” for running new and different patterns of neurology.

Accept , that whatever the result , it was your Neurology that gave you your experiences.

The failure feedback when used usefully can be used to identify where NLP applications can be modified to suit a persons particular processing style , or it can be used as a means to identify a better contextual “frame” for the NLP application to run within.

This was not meant to be an exhaustive post , I just wanted to cover some of the fundamentals as to NLP and its mindset , that way anyone who wants to take the NLP doesn’t work track has a grounding in the NLP mindset.

My take on the mindset of NLP is

NLP is the “programming language”

The techniques are applications of the “programming language”

The NLP techniques are applied to and run within a subjects neurology.

To get a desired result = running the neurology of the subject in the way(s) required to get the desired effect.

The NLP application does NOT “run” in isolation , it “runs” within an already “primed” environment.

Pay attention to the state of the subject , and the results because you may have to do some remedial work on the already running NLP programs (or patterns) , before the applied technique runs to the desired effect.

Or you may have to “tailor” the application of NLP to suit.

It does help if you can make the distinctions.

If you read through to here and understood it, then you actually have most of what makes learning NLP applications so much easier than just slogging your way through random books or video courses, or randomly (and hopefully) working with NLP applications on yourself and others.

Also the published NLP applications are examples , that can be used as is or modified to suit , or what I have done in the past is take an NLP application as an example of what is possible (for others) and create my own equivalent (based on my own preferences).

Results first. NLP application requirements is second. The rest is irrelevant to the issue being worked on , unless there is a failure , which then invokes a review of what is wanted , the person who wants it , the NLP application being used , and in some cases the NLP is directing the person running the NLP application (patterns of neurology) through their neurology.

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Alexander Pommett is a dating and relationship expert who enjoys blogging. I’m the author, researcher, and publisher of this website. Coming in at over 100 posts, this is no longer the “little project” I had in mind when I first started.